The pitfalls of a relationship

Mutual respect is very important in the relationship between a man and a woman. What does this consist of? When both parties are honest with each other. In order to maintain harmony, it is necessary to never harm the other. When they accept each other's mistakes, until the point where they do not cause conflict or pain in the other person. But there is a limit here as well.

When you don't just want to use each other and don't take advantage of the other's love. Because then this is abuse on the other side. From there, trust is undermined. Both parties are responsible for correcting their mistakes if, e.g. is hurtful to the other party. What is the ideal relationship? When they see each other as a whole. They respect each other's quality. The man is the female quality, the woman is the male quality. Both qualities play an important role in life, especially in relationships, and especially when they have children. What creates a conflict situation? In a relationship, if one quality is suppressed, then the harmony is overturned, because there is no respect. For example, how can you oppress a man? Dear ladies, if e.g. father sets up the woman as an image of the man. If she expects the man to think for her and take care of her, as if the man's child were a grown woman.

This is the other extreme if the woman tries to mother the man. She tells him what to do, owning his time, overriding his decisiveness, making the man vulnerable, as if he had no independent thoughts. But it also happens that the woman makes herself completely subordinate to the relationship, (sacrifice) e.g. If you have an adult child (the man) whom you have to take care of and serve like a child. She is the mother type, and with this she suppresses the man's partner.. There are also narcissistic women who see the man as their subordinate and do everything to keep that man by their side. They blackmail her emotionally, making it so that the man would not be able to exist without the woman. This makes the man dependent in that relationship. But it also happens that it goes from one extreme to the other, because there are also narcissistic men. And he uses his power against her.

First only in words, in actions, verbally like a silent killer, then physical punishment follows. Sometimes the children watch this all the time, they live the whole time that the father is the brother of their mother... The woman also finds it very difficult to free herself from that relationship. Provided she asks for help, which is rare because she's scared. Then there is something in both men and women, when one moment they are nice, the next moment they are emotionally unavailable, then they behave rudely, when they are confronted with the fact that they are hurtful, then they are nice again... this is how they keep their partner chained to them. These people will usually have a damaged psyche and completely lose their male or female qualities. It is very difficult for them to get out of that relationship. Many people do not dare to ask for help from a professional and take these injuries to another relationship, but it may even be that they do not want another relationship because they are afraid, mistrustful, lack self-confidence, but lack love, which is why they are looking for a new relationship. These people are contacts. E.g. If a man does not work out his injuries, then the other relationship is also doomed if he connects with a woman online. Because he projects his past relationship problems and grievances onto the other person, his new relationship, at the slightest conflict. But this is also true for women. They jump into the new relationship. Humans are sentient beings, this must be realized. Everyone can process their trauma differently. And if there are unsewn threads floating in the past, then your new relationship will also fail. And usually because of the person who goes into a new relationship injured, he/she is projecting the state of mind that he/she suffered in the previous relationship.

That's why self-control and meditation are good when the mentally injured person can get over his problems and enter a new relationship without being damaged, and thereby carry his problem over. Then there are those things when a woman cannot be a woman in a relationship. How does this happen? What causes it? When the man is not aware of what the woman wants. When the woman cannot be treated by the man as a woman. When a woman cannot live out her femininity. When the woman cannot reach these shortcomings with the man even with proper communication.

This is the marital crisis. When intimacy is not and cannot be fulfilled. She doesn't get the attention, care, kindness she wants from the man. Because of this, many women turn inward and become lonely in their relationships. Who sooner or later will realize that this is not good for her because she is not happy and does not feel good because she cannot fulfill herself as a woman. This symptom is quite common nowadays. What can be done? The woman's choice...does she stay in this toxic relationship or does she change? If he stays, sooner rather than later he will get sick or die. So everyone think about these things.

They loved each other once. What has changed? Can it be reversed? But...You need two people there. Then you have to ask the big question. Do you want to redo it? Is it worth it? And if this happens again? Each miracle lasts for 3 days. Right? And.... How long can it be kept up? So these are worth considering and taking everything into account and deciding. You don't have to suffer for the rest of your life, life is too short to waste your time...because everyone has a choice.