My thoughts part 74

What is the debate, the arguing?

What does it mean to argue with someone?

A dispute is when we disagree with the other about something. You try to refute it by stating your point of view, why you do not agree with it.
Arguing means that if he doesn't agree with you either. He is trying to explain his own point of view, why you are wrong. Which you won't accept either...

Both of you want to prove your own truth and impose it on the other. As a matter of fact, discussion and debate are primarily about intelligence.

Those who are not intellectually developed enough and not intelligent enough stop arguing with others. If 2 people argue, it means that their intelligence is lacking. They have something to polish on it.

There is no point in arguing... Because everyone is right from their own point of view. On the other hand, intelligence gives you the opportunity to listen to or read the other person's point of view and communicate about it.
You can express your point of view, discuss your experiences, express your opinion, etc.

All opinions are true, because the other's point of view or your view is your own opinion.

Therefore, if we only listen to or read each other and argue about it, it means that we do not give the truth to the other and do not accept his truth, therefore we want to impose on the other the truth that we see, believe and perceive from our point of view.

But the reality is that everyone is right!
So it means that you can say it in a healthy way or to describe our own opinion, vision, point of view to each other. What is called an exchange of ideas.

And it points to the individual's incomplete intelligence that if someone gets into an argument for his own truth.

Disputes always stem from the fact that we take our own point of view as the real truth. We leave no room for the other's point of view, the other's truth. We don't think that the other person can and is right, because he experiences it differently, relates to it differently, sees the given thing or situation from a different perspective. In fact, everyone is right in their own perception and from their own point of view.

That's why it's not worth arguing, because it makes no sense to impose on each other what we see differently, experience differently, perceive differently, think differently about.

I would quote the words of my partner, who is absolutely right about this:

It's like a movie.
One should see the beginning, the other the middle and the third the end.
They have a different opinion about that movie, they experienced something else, they saw something else...
One of them saw a couple fighting and shouting on the subway
Others saw that e.g. a couple was making love in the room.
3 saw that a woman was crying at the train station because her partner had left or left her.

So what was the movie about, to the question...

Everyone saw it differently, answered differently.
One said the movie was too rough (due to a fight)
The other said it was an erotic film (because of a couple making love)
The third said it was a dramatic film (the woman cried because her partner left)

They saw the same movie... But because they didn't see the whole movie, their vision, experience, and opinion won't match either. But everyone is still right. After all, they saw the one part of the movie that they are talking about. So there is no point in arguing and arguing because everyone is right from their own point of view.
If these 3 people sat down to talk...
As a result, it would rather be an exchange of ideas, and how the conversation takes place....

If he tells his own truth by speaking his own truth ... well, that's where the debate comes from. When we want to convince the other about our own truth, even though everyone is equally right, because the 3 situations were included in the movie, but they didn't watch the movie all the way through.

The basis of harmonious relationships is if we accept each other's points of view and learn from the exchange of ideas... if it is constructive for us.
And even if he doesn't build, we accept what he sees and what he thinks is right, true, because he experienced this and that thing differently.

We should not want to have a destructive effect on anyone because he sees things differently.
That's why we let the topic go and don't stop to argue. Because we cannot know how he sees and feels differently from his own point of view. It is true that your development levels are different. Or do you think it's important to highlight something else from the given situation...

Everyone sees and perceives as much of the given things and events as they can absorb. And this depends on your level of development.

If we are so intelligent and sufficiently developed on the mental level, then we don't want to get into the other by arguing about the given topic if you do argue with us.
And this person does not want to talk about this topic anymore. so you can intelligently keep scrolling through the work.

So if everyone has told their own point of view, but who is right... there is no point in arguing about it, especially if they do not have the same point of view, and you cannot have a cultured exchange of ideas with the person, because he is pushing his own truth.....

This is because our level of development is not the same. Everyone else sees things from a different perspective. And we don't want to destroy our relations with the debate, because he has a different way of seeing.

He is right and you are right from your own point of view.

We experience everything individually. That is why many of us have different opinions and views. For which we cannot blame each other, since we cannot be the same. However, if everyone is right, then there is nothing to argue about. You just have to accept the other's point of view, because from his point of view he is also right.

So the most important thing in life is to get along with each other and ourselves.

However, if a person is conscious enough, you can exchange ideas, who experiences how, who sees anything in relation to the given topic. Well, you can really learn from each other. Harmony, love, peace and tranquility are necessary to be able to communicate well with everyone. This is what we should strive for, this is when we get along well with each other and with ourselves

Star M. Gyöngyi
writer and reality researcher

Piliscsev. 10/17/2024